Recently, when we had a couple
sisters come to visit, we had a time when we asked random questions for
everyone to answer – as a way to have fun getting to know one another
better. One of Benny’s questions was: “If you had several hundred dollars, what
would you buy?” I said I would sell all my clothes and buy a new wardrobe –
with clothes that actually fit, colours I like, and having fewer actual items
but more diversity in types of clothing. I have a specific style I like, though
I don’t often dress that way, because I can’t talk myself into buying more
clothes when I already have some, even if they don’t fit well or aren’t a style
I like.
As often happens, I dwelled on my
answer the next day, wondering if it were possible. It occurred to me that it
was absolutely possible. For several hours, I sketched out a list I entitled: “Clothes
to live on.” In it, I specified exactly what types I would have and in what
colour and quantity. Here are a few examples:
5 blouses (white, black, red, brown,
navy)
5 skirts (denim, 2 Sunday, white,
black)
3 slacks (brown, black, grey)
I was detailed, down to the amount of
shoes (5!), keeping a maximum of five in anything, and less than that as much
as I could. My aim was to have a basic colour theme, style, and to downsize as
much as possible. I was incredibly excited about my list and showed it to Benny,
practically gushing about how it would be beneficial, and telling him I planned
to actually go through with it. How? By going through everything I owned and
keeping only what was on my list. If I didn’t have something, I would keep
something close to that with the plan to later replace it with what I actually
want. Whenever I buy clothes from now on, they are not being acquired; they are
replacing.
Why am I so excited about this? There
are several reasons. First, many of the things I have fit me poorly. I’ve lost
50 pounds in the past two years – fourty of that fairly quickly – so much of
what I have has been too big and more of a frustration than a help. Second, I
don’t like buying things I feel I don’t need. If I get rid of everything I don’t
need, I’ll only be buying when I truly need something. This means I’ll be
buying less, I won’t feel bad about spending more on good quality, and I’ll
only own things I absolutely love. Lastly, I’ve often felt badly for owning
things in excess when I know they could be of use to others. When I’m selling
or giving away my excess, I’m challenging myself to be less materialistic, and
I’m helping other people.
When I told Benny about my plan, he
agreed it was a good idea, and he decided to join me! He wrote a separate list
of “Clothes to live on,” with effectively the same boundaries I had used. His
reasons for wanting to do so were essentially the same as mine, and we both felt
it could be a rewarding and freeing endeavour. And perhaps we'll find we can get away with even less (I secretly hope so).
All that said, we’ve already begun
sorting through clothes deciding what is worth trying to sell, what to throw
away, and what to keep. We also can veto if someone is about to throw something
away his/her spouse especially likes to see him/her wearing. Some things are
harder to give up than others, but we’re excited to follow through to the end.
